SOFT WHISPERS

Hi guys! It's been a minute. To be honest,  i got discouraged and uninterested along the way but hell no! I am not quitting blogging. I got remotivated and here i am.
Well this post is a ladies' special edition. Well getting straight to the business, oh hey girlfriends! we've got some chitchat to do. "I love you", " no girl has ever made me feel the way you do",  "you complete me" , " you possess me" , "nothing can quench my love for you" ,  you know how  the rest of the story goes... Soft whispers all around you,  especially when it's coming from a real cute and sensible guy,  then your heart begins to melt. You most probably once had a crush on him, that's it! Game over. You let your guards down and you are ready to dive into the ocean of love,  even without a life jacket? (Sistur, take a chillpill).
As girls,  we get easily swayed by words; we are moved by what we hear,  especially when it's coming from the bass(guys or males).
As a result of this,  we fall in "love" all too quick too soon,  or at least we think we are.
Once we begin to hear what we like;those sweet words, soft whispers... Then you are like no guy has ever said that to me before and even before your heart decides,  you have allowed your head to do all the love calculation,  then you conclude that he loves you and you love him back.
Truth be told,  there is no average teenage girl that is not moved by what she hears,  especially from a guy she likes, it's just that some are more susceptible than others.
Worse still,  if you had earlier thought that the guy was way out of your league,  then all of a sudden, he starts showing interest in you, it is very normal to tend to rush into a relationship with that kind of guy without weighing the odds.
Girlfriends! There is no guy that is too good or too fresh for anybody. Do not mislead yourself into the illusion that if you say no to this one,  better guys will not come along. That he is all cute and smart, funnyand he was your crush, then you say fate has brought you together(says who?).
That he goes to church, and when he sings,  the heavens open and angels descend does not still mean he is the right one for you.
You  say love is blind? Sweetheart,  love is not blind until you are married and you have to close your eyes to the flaws of your spouse,  but for now,  your eyes are still wide open,  use them well!
Love is patient,  Love is kind!
Any guy who claims to love you but cannot wait until you are ready does not love you.
If a guy says he loves you, he should respect you in every way and put your feelings first before his.
It is not just by the words or soft whispers, it must be backed up by deeds. Those little gestures, efforts and sacrifices(observing even the tiniest details about you like the way you hold your coffee mug or the change in your tone  when you  are sad) ,  make all the difference. To them(guys),  it might be insignificant but to us,  it means everything.
It costs a guy nothing to compose a very sweet,  captivating and romantic text, it is their calling!So don't get all mushy and excited and head over heels in love just because of a text,  It is no big deal!
Learn to time - proof any attraction a guy has towards you. Is it love or lust or infatuation? Will it stand the test of time? How far is he willing to go to be with you? Does he care about your feelings or he is just attracted to your body? Is he willing to make sacrifices for you?
These are the questions that should register in your head before giving any guy a chance. Your heart is too expensive to be thrown at every Tom,  Dick and Harry that professes love to you.
So girlfriends, it's time to bend the rules a bit and fuel up the chase. They love  challenges,  give it to them. Don't make it too easy for them.
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