SUNDAY SPECIAL - YOU AND YOUR REACTION TO SETBACKS

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YOU AND YOUR REACTION TO SETBACKS (FAILURE)

It is quite logical that after events of setbacks, disappointments or failures, there lies the heightened possibility that in the light of trying to express our regret for not taking certain adequate steps that could have ensured success, we give certain reactions such as tears of frustration, wailings of exasperation and sometimes, thoughts of throwing in the towel (giving up). These are ungodly tendencies that manifest out of us thanks to our sinister situation.
The Book of I Samuel 30:1-20 gives a detailed account of a particular event took place in the life of David that shows that disposition God expects from every single believer in times of setbacks.
David had run away from Saul who sought to kill him. He went into the camp of the Philistines (these were die-hard enemies of the Israelites whom David had once killed their champion – Goliath). But God gave Him uncommon favour before Achish, the king of Gath – a principal garrison (stronghold) of the Philistines. His relationship with Achish and the Philistines was waxing stronger and stronger to the extent that Achish gave him and his men lands to inhabit with their families. In order to show how much Achish was involved with David, he dangerously invited David to come and war alongside him against David’s own people whom he was to rule. Of course, in order for David to keep himself favoured, he accepted to go to war against the Israelites. But on getting to the battle ground, the other Lords of the Philistines would not take the risk. David and his men were sent back home.
Permit me to say, considering all the situations David had been in, his life seemed to be looking to be going smoothly now. At least he was anointed to rule, and now he was ruling and presiding over a group of people. But that was not were God wanted him to be. Those were not the kind of people his anointing was for (I Samuel 22:2). Do not be complacent with your current situation – there is more for you than you have now in God.
On getting back to their city, they realized that they had been raided – the raiders had carted away their belongings, wives and children. That’s what happens when our pursuits to please others to improve our status and lives instead of pleasing God - it makes us leave our life unguarded. The Devil moves in and raids (John 10:10).
The Bible says David and his men sat down and wept till they no longer had strength to weep anymore. Grown men, men of war, men of valour, men of power, solid men, and rugged men began to weep. You can begin to imagine what the scene looked like. The little they’ve been able to gather had been scattered. The Devil poured sand inside their garri. They had been denied of their little comfort. But God only folded his Almighty arms and was watching their dirge. They were mourning people that were still alive. They were mourning their oncoming victory. And unfortunately, the imminent frustration set in too quickly. They began to talk about stoning David to death.
Here comes the part that makes me happy about David. When he was tired of weeping and realized that his weeping would not resolve the issue at hand, the Bible says, he encouraged himself in the Lord. He then realized that the God that anointed him is the God that rules in the affairs of Men. He asked God, “Should I pursue?” And God immediately got to work. He said “pursue, for you shall overtake and without fail, recover all”. Well, the rest was an overwhelming victory. David and his men who still had strength to fight went and located the band of Amalekite raiders whom God had delayed to foolishly hold parties before getting to their stronghold. When you celebrate premature success, you become susceptible to ambush. The Bible says David recovered everything he had lost to them and more importantly, he spoiled them – more than enough loot for himself and his men that he sent some gifts to the elders of Israel to fund his political ambitions as he understood that his gift would pave way for him. He was now better off than his situation before the raid.
Superb, isn’t it??? David could have been stoned to death. His anointing to rule Israel could have been made useless before he even ruled. Crying and sulking has never solved any problem and it would never solve any. When the Israelites got to the red sea and saw the angry looking Egyptians coming from behind, they began to cry and God told Moses to tell them to move forward. Move forward to where??? Would they swim through the red sea??? God did not create any path in the red sea until they moved forward.
Are you in a seemingly difficult position? Have you failed a life changing examination? Have you amassed more carryover courses than the number of shoes in Lagos Market? Is your CGPA so low that it cannot dial MTN to MTN if it is converted to airtime? Are your parents deliberating divorce? Is it that the finances of the family is below par and you are finding it hard to get back on your financial feet? Have you been heartbroken by colleagues, associates, friends or acquaintances?
I’ll only ask you, have you been thrown into the Lions’ Den? Have you been viciously thrown out of your house by a relative with a gun to your head? Have been unable to give get pregnant and the second wife is tired of seeing children around her? Have you been thrown into a fiery furnace enough to roast with its smoke? Have you been thrown into burning oil? Have you ever been sold into slavery?
Well, if none of the above have happened to you, the God that realigned the situations of Daniel, David, Hannah, Shadrach, Meshach, Abednego, John the beloved and Joseph respectively for their good, will see to your situation provided you seek Him and do what you have to do rather than for you sit around in idleness crying and regretting over spilled milk. Remember, they that know their God, shall be strong and shall do exploits!
Agape love.

Written by:
Elegbede Olumide
Babcock University

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POLITICAL UPDATES

1) CRITICISM WON'T STOP BUHARI'S ANTI-CORRUPTION WAR –Mohammed
The Minister of Information and Culture, Alhaji Lai Mohammed, has said that President Muhammadu Buhari will not relent in his war against corruption until the scourge is destroyed in the country.
He also called on Nigerians to join the battle against corruption in the country.
“This is not Buhari’s war; this is not the All Progressives Congress’ war. This is a war for all Nigerians and we must all join hands in waging the war,’’ Mohammed said while delivering a lecture on Friday at the Faculty of Arts, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Osun State.
He claimed that once the people were determined to fight corruption, they were assured of victory.
The minister said, ‘’No power has ever been great enough to defeat a people who are determined to win. Let us all form what I call citizens’ coalition against corruption by speaking up against the crime, refusing to glorify or support looters, irrespective of how much dirty cash they dangle before us, and refusing to be divided along religious or ethnic lines.”
While listing the effects of corruption in the nation, the minister said Nigeria lost $400bn in the oil sector alone, adding that so much money was stolen by corrupt leaders from the health, education, security and other sectors.
According to him, atrocities committed by the Boko Haram insurgents continued for many years because the funds allocated to buy weapons for the military were shared by some corrupt persons.
Apart from massive loss of lives and property, Mohammed stated that corruption in public office had caused endemic poverty, poor infrastructure and lack of qualitative health care, among other effects.
The minister, however, claimed that corruption had started fighting back, saying some of the corrupt persons had started hiring hack writers, pseudo analysts to attack the President’s war against corruption in the media.
He said, “On the part of government, let me reiterate what I said earlier that there is no stopping this fight. Those who doubt the resolve of this administration to successfully wage this battle will learn a tough lesson, a lesson of their lives.
“Failure is not an option in this fight. In the days ahead, we plan a road show of sorts on corruption sensitisation efforts.”
Mohammed decried the use of ethno-religious sentiment to weaken the anti-corruption war, but asked Nigerians to ignore the trick “because poverty and other effects of corruption did not discriminate between people according to ethnicity or religious beliefs.”

2) NYSC BANS COMBINATION OF LAW SCHOOL AND NATIONAL SERVICE
The National Youth Service Corps has said that henceforth, participation in the national service and attendance of Law School at the same time “would not be acceptable”.
A statement by the spokesperson of the NYSC, Mrs. Abosede Aderibigbe, on Friday said this was part of the resolutions made at 2016 annual management conference of the organisation, which took place in Asaba, the Delta State capital.
Participants also agreed that the policy on posting of the corps members to places of primary assignment would be reviewed to meet contemporary needs.
Aderibigbe said the conference stated that the NYSC Act provided for uninterrupted service year, and “advised prospective corps members to choose which one to defer between national service and Law School attendance instead of attempting to combine both.”
She said, “Parents of prospective corps members have also been advised by the confab to allow their graduate children take decisions as adults and avoid discouraging them from accepting postings to any location in the country.
“Management also noted the return of normalcy in some states whose orientation camps were closed due to insecurity, and expressed readiness to make phased reopening of the camps after due consultations with security agencies and governments of the affected states.”
The conference further resolved to deepen engagements with key stakeholders, including the security and intelligence community and traditional rulers on matters of security and general well-being of corps members.

3) ZIKA VIRUS: FG alerts Nigerians, restricts travel to Latin America
The Federal Government has alerted Nigerians on the outbreak of Zika virus infection, with directive that the citizens, especially pregnant women should be restricted from traveling to Latin America until the situation improves.
The government, which directed the Nigeria Centre for Disease Control to include Zika virus diagnosis as part of the ongoing efforts to manage Lassa fever outbreak in the country, said anyone coming from any of the Latin American countries should be interviewed at the various ports of entry to ascertain evidence of Zika virus symptoms.
A statement issued on Friday in Abuja by the Director of Press and Public Relations in the Federal Ministry of Health, Mrs. Boade Akinola, quoted the Minister of Health, Prof. Isaac Adewole, as saying that Zika virus infection, which was first discovered in Brazil in 2014, is transmitted by a bite of mosquito vector.
While assuring Nigerians that “there is no single case of Zika virus infection in the country and there is no need to panic,” he said the Federal Ministry of Health would continue to monitor the situation and update Nigerians of any other developments.
Adewole said, “The World Health Organisation has raised a global alert because the disease has affected about 23 countries in Americas especially in Latin America. At the moment, there is no cure or vaccine for Zika virus infection.
“The Federal Ministry of Health hereby advises a travel restriction especially by pregnant women to Latin America for now until the situation improves. In addition, we have directed the Nigeria Centre for Disease Control to include Zika virus diagnosis as part of ongoing effort to manage Lassa fever outbreak in the country.
“Nigerians should be vigilant and report promptly any case of unexplained fever that is more than 48 hours, especially in those with recent travels to Latin America, to health care professionals.
“Nigerians working at various ports of entry into the country should interview anyone coming from any of the Latin American countries for evidence of Zika virus symptoms.”
The manifestation of Zika virus infection include mild fever, rash (mostly maculo-papular), headaches, joint pain (arthralgia), muscle pain (myalgia), loss of weight (asthenia) and non-purulent conjunctivitis.
The virus is also associated with higher risk of congenital malformations in newborn when pregnant women are affected. The diseases usually occur about three to twelve days after the mosquito vector bites.

4) ARMS DEAL: EFCC INVESTIGATES OBANIKORO’S CHILDREN OVER ALLEGED N4.8 BILLION FUND

Former Defence Minister Musiliu Obanikoro's 2 children,  Babajide and  Gbolahan Obanikoro are currently been investigated by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC. Sources at the anti- graft agency disclosed that N4,745,000,000.00 was traced to a company, Sylvan McNamara Limited, in which they both have investments in.
The money was allegedly paid into the company’s account with Diamond bank over a period of time from the Office of the National Security Adviser account with the CBN. According to the source, all the transfers took place between June and December 2014,which was during the Ekiti state governorship election.  N200 million was allegedly transferred into  Sylvan Mc Namara’s account on June 5, 2015, while N2billion was also wired into the account from the CBN/ Imprest Main account on June 16, 2015. Another transfer of N700 million went into the account on July 7, 2014, while N1billion was credited into the account on July 30, 2014.  Other transfers included: N160 million on August 8, 2014; N225 million on August 22, 2014; N200 million  on November 14, 2014 and N200 million on December 5, 2014. Both Gbolahan and Babajide Obanikoro, were allegedly directors of the company and were also signatories to its account until 2014 when one Olalekan Ogunseye was made the sole signatory to the account. EFCC sources disclosed that the payments to the company from the office of the National Security Adviser were made without any contract.

5) SEIZE ANY MONEY IN ANY FOREIGN ACCOUNT TRACED TO ME- AKPABIO TELLS FG

Former Akwa Ibom state governor and Senator, Godswill Akpabio, has asked the Federal government to seize any money in any foreign account that is traced to him. Akpabio said this in a statement he released today through his spokesperson, Anietie Ekong. He released the statement to debunk a newspaper report that he had made a secret attempt to withdraw $7.2 billion from banks in Dubai, United Arab Emirate, through channels in the Central Bank of Nigeria
“We challenge these purveyors of falsehood to publish the full details of the purported $7.2 billion account and we urge the Federal Government of Nigeria to seize such sum and prosecute the owner if it does exist. People should learn to accept the outcome of elections and stop this kind of dangerous propaganda in the name of politics,” he said.

Photos: Governor El-Rufai inaugurates the Judicial Commission of Inquiry on the Shi'ites-Army clash in Zaria

Kaduna State Governor, Malam Nasir el-Rufai inaugurated the Judicial Commission of Inquiry on the Shi'ites-Army clash in Zaria on Friday, January 29 at the Sir Kashim Ibrahim House.

The Commission is being chaired by Justice Mohammed Lawal Garba, the presiding justice of the Port Harcourt Division of the Court of Appeal. The commission has twelve Commissioners that include:

1. Prof. Salihu Shehu - Commissioner. Professor Shehu lectures at the Bayero University, Kano.
2. Prof. Umar Labdo – Commissioner. Professor Labdo teaches in the Faculty of Humanities, Northwest University, Kano.
3. Malam Salihu Abubakar – Commissioner. Malam Abubakar is a former director of the National Agricultural Extension and Research Liaison Services (NAERLS), Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria.
4. Prof. Auwalu Yadudu – Commissioner. He is an accomplished professor of Law, and former Special Adviser on Legal Matters during the Abacha government.
5. Prof. Ibrahim Gambari – Commissioner. Professor Gambari is a former minister of Foreign Affairs. He was also Under-Secretary-General of the United Nations, and headed the UN department of Political Affairs. He is often consulted on African Affairs, Peacekeeping and Global Security.
6. Mr. Afakirya Gadzama – Commissioner. Mr. Gadzama, a career intelligence professional, is a former Director-General of the Department of State Services, where he served in various positions, including as Kaduna State director of the agency.
7. Brig-Gen. Aminun-Kano Maude (rtd) – Commissioner. General Maude is a retired Deputy Director, Army Finance and Accounts. He holds a Ph.D in Accountancy.
8. Dr. Jibrin Ibrahim – Commissioner. Dr. Ibrahim is a well-known civil society leader and columnist. He taught politics at the Ahmadu Bello University, and has researched and written about religion.
9. Mrs. Khadijah Hawaja Gambo – Commissioner. Mrs. Gambo is a gender rights activist, social entrepreneur and conflict resolution expert active in Plateau and neighbouring states. She is fluent in Arabic.
10. Mr. Bilya Bala – Commissioner. Mr. Bala is an accomplished banker and journalist. He is currently editor-in-chief of the People’s Daily newspaper.
11. Maj-Gen Alexander Anjili Mshelbwala – Commissioner. General Mshelbwala is a retired infantry general knowledgeable in civil-military relations and counter-insurgency. He was former Military Secretary of the Nigerian Army.
12. Mrs. Desire Deseye Nsirim CP (Rtd.) – Commissioner. Mrs. Nsirim was a distinguished police officer. She retired after being the commissioner of police of Niger State.
Dr. Bala Babaji, Director of the Centre for Islamic Legal Studies, Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria is to serve as Secretary to the Commission. He is to be assisted by a secretariat with experts drawn from academia, civil society and the public service of the state and the Federation.
The counsel to the commission is Malam Yusuf Ali, a Senior Advocate of Nigeria, a chartered arbitrator and a member of the Body of Benchers.

6) SPEECH BY THE GOVERNOR AT THE INAUGURATION:

We are here today to perform a solemn duty, to kickstart the work of the Judicial Commission of Inquiry into the 12-14 December 2015 clashes in Zaria. As you are aware, lives were lost and property were destroyed during the tragic clashes between the group known as the Islamic Movement in Nigeria and a detachment of the Nigerian Army. For reasons of accountability and transparency, the Kaduna State Government deems it right and proper to institute this Judicial Commission of Inquiry into the incidents. This will allow all parties to state their case and afford the public a fair and accurate accounting of the events.
The Kaduna State Government is of the firm belief that such an authoritative account will assign administrative and criminal responsibility where due. In addition to determining responsibility, the outcome of this Inquiry will hopefully enable government and society to understand the historical background, and the culture and practices that are relevant in providing context to the regrettable events. The government is especially concerned that all citizens take seriously their duty of allegiance to the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, to respect the prerogatives of state institutions, to abide by the laws of the country and to exercise their freedom to practice their faith in ways that do not infringe on the rights of other citizens.
Since the government announced its decision to constitute this Judicial Commission of Inquiry, we have been asked why we are establishing this Inquiry in the light of certain actions the government has taken. Our response is that it is neither right nor prudent for the Kaduna State Government to abdicate its constitutional responsibility, and to conceal this under the cover of a commission of inquiry. Governance cannot be suspended even for processes as weighty as a Judicial Commission of Inquiry. Where the government has evidence that crimes have been committed, it is only proper that prosecutions be initiated.
In the aftermath of the clashes, it became the duty of the municipal authorities to restore normalcy to the affected neighbourhoods. Measures to safeguard public health and safety by removing unsound structures, and clearing debris from the scene of the clashes thus became unavoidable. People were rescued from the debris, while corpses which could have constituted a risk to public health were discovered and removed. The governance of the state cannot be paused because of the events of December 2015.
In all our actions since the events, we have sought only to discharge the normal obligations of government to protect the rights of all citizens with equal concern and to protect the public interest. Kaduna State bears too vividly the scars of the horrors that have been inflicted on it by ethno-communal and religious upheavals. We have a duty to promote peace, foster harmony, and end the legacy of division by ensuring that the law applies equally to everyone.
Let it be clear that the Kaduna State Government is convinced that a Judicial Commission of Inquiry provides a chance to understand the events that happened, their background, establish casualties, assign responsibilities and make appropriate recommendations to the federal and state governments, so that such tragedies may be avoided in future. Those that wrongly believe that a federal government inquiry is necessary to satisfy them should note that under the 1999 Constitution, only State Governments can institute judicial commissions of inquiry in their states. The Federal Government can only do so in the Federal Capital Territory of Abuja. Those that argue that a state level inquiry cannot invite, compel attendance and interrogate the criminal or administrative responsibility of federal actors are also wrong as the laws of Kaduna State apply to every person that is engaged in acts of omission or commission in our territory whether that person or group is military, paramilitary or civilian. Members of the Armed Forces, like all citizens, are subject to state and federal laws. We have been deliberate in consulting widely with the governments of the 19 Northern States and the Federal Government before concluding on the need for this Inquiry.
These distinguished Nigerians have been selected for their integrity, skills, experience and competence. They are not representing any organization, group or interest. It is their knowledge, professional skills, character and record of service that qualified them to be chosen for this important national assignment. We are confident that the caliber of persons we have today and the diverse pool of knowledge, experience and patriotism they collectively bring will help our state and our country to ensure that the needless deaths of our citizens that occurred in the December 2015 clashes are never repeated.
I wish to thank the Chairman, Members and Secretary of this Judicial Commission of Inquiry for accepting to undertake this assignment. I want to recognize and also thank Yusuf Ali, SAN and the team of lawyers working with him for graciously accepting to serve as Counsel to the Commission.
My Lord Chairman, ladies and gentlemen, this Inquiry may well turn out to be a thankless assignment for which you will be accused, smeared and attacked. Some of it may already have started. It is however a task that needs the attention of our best and brightest. It requires the thickest of skins. You are the thirteen wise men and women that we believe will do this for Nigeria under the guidance of Almighty God. I therefore urge you to take all present and future challenges in your stride while striving to be fair and just to everyone as required by our Constitution, laws, the Instrument and the rules of natural justice.
The Terms of the Inquiry are as follows:
i. To determine the immediate causes of the Clashes;
ii. To determine the historical circumstances, surrounding and contributory factors and remote causes of the Clashes;
iii. To ascertain the number of persons killed, wounded or missing during the Clashes;
iv. To identify all property alleged to have been damaged or destroyed during the Clashes, the owners or occupiers of such property and the value claimed by them for such damage or destruction;
v. To identify actions and omissions of relevant persons, traditional and religious institutions, Federal and State actors and emergency response agencies before, during and after the Clashes;
vi. To determine whether the actions and omissions identified in sub-paragraph (e) above were necessary, appropriate and sufficient in the circumstances in which they occurred;
vii. To determine the evolution of the Islamic Movement in Nigeria, its organization, structure, membership, growth, assets, resources, culture and practices, and how any or all of these contributed to any engagement with the community, constituted authorities and the security agencies;
viii. To review all other factors, issues or matters, including the alleged involvement of foreign and domestic actors or their influence or instigation, that may have contributed to the incident or may conduce to such incidents in the future and make recommendations thereto;
ix. To make recommendations to the Kaduna State Government and the Federal Government as to direct or indirect responsibility for any acts of commission or omission identified in sub-paragraph (v) above;
x. To make recommendations as to actions to be taken to ensure that administrative or criminal responsibility is further determined by the appropriate administrative or judicial authorities for any identified acts or omissions;
xi. To make recommendations as to actions to be taken, policies to be developed and implemented to ensure that acts and omissions that may have contributed or led to the Clashes are pre-empted entirely or, where they occur, their negative effects are mitigated, in future;
xii. To recommend any matter for prosecution, further investigation or the convening of a separate inquiry to the appropriate Law Enforcement Agency, Government Department or Prosecutor regarding the conduct of a certain person or persons; and
xiii. To investigate any other matter incidental or relevant to these Terms of Inquiry which, in the Commission’s view, should be investigated and make any other pertinent recommendations that it deems necessary for the purpose.
The Kaduna State Government looks forward to receiving the interim and final reports of this Commission within six weeks after the first public sitting.

Photos: EFCC seals off estate belonging to former Chief of Army Staff, Gen. Ihejirika
 The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) has sealed off an estate which is said to be owned by the former Chief of Army Staff (COAS) Azubuike Ihejirika. The beautiful estate located along Jabi Airport road junction, Abuja was sealed off on Wednesday, January 27 amid heavy security.  The eyewitness who took the photos was reportedly manhandled by the operatives.

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5 DON'TS OF ANY RELATIONSHIP

Hey lovelies. Hope you had a wonderful week? Yes it's Friday and guess what we are talking about? Is it... Nope you guessed wrong, not like I know what you guessed anyway lol but to those who guessed right,  yes,  we are going to be discussing  relationships. Hmmmm...
Yes,  everyone wants a healthy,  steady relationship,  no one wants an unstable fluctuating relationship where today, your facebook status is "In a relationship ",  tomorrow is "Single",  the next day "it's complicated"... Now  that's really messed up and am guessing no one will want to be in that kind of confused relationship but you have to play the role.
Now,  everyone is always talking about what you must do to keep your man or your girl but we often ignore the "don'ts" of a relationship. Yes there are things you necessarily have to do to maintain a relationship but equally important, there are things you shouldn't do as will be discussed below.

1) Don't nag
No one likes to be in a relationship where the other person is constantly complaining or nagging about something all the time. Even if you have reservations about your boyfriend's or girlfriend's behavior or approach to things,  present it in a constructive and loving manner and once you've mentioned it once, you don't have to keep whining about it. Trust your partner to change and be supportive also,  help him see reasons why he/she needs to change and ways to go about it but once you start nagging,  the relationship gets tiring.

2)Don't involve a third party
You have a misunderstanding or issue with your boyfriend or girlfriend,  keep it within the house. Don't wash your dirty linen in public. Your misunderstanding should never erupt into an explosive fight or a dramatic scene in public. The more you involve friends and well wishers in your relationship,  the more your relationship becomes a public affair. Then at some point,  you will just realize you are not just dating your girlfriend but all her friends also because everyone has a say in what was meant to be a relationship between two people.

3) Don't keep tabs
Don't get me wrong on this one,  keep records of the good  things but definitely not the bad ones. Grudges are like slow poisons,  they keep wielding up and up until they finally kill the relationship. Settle your disputes amicably the moment they arise. Talk about it, no one is perfect. The other person may not even know that he/she had offended you. Talk about it,  resolve it and let it end there, you don't have to keep referring to it the next time there is another misunderstanding. Don't keep tabs. Bearing grudges in mind will only tear you guys apart.

4) Don't be Selfish
A healthy relationship entails taking into consideration at all times, note,  not only when it is convenient, the feelings of the other person. In a relationship,  you guys are a team so you have to  engage in some little teamwork like play together, talk together, make decisions together and pray together. Don't always insist on having your way all the time. Sometimes you are right,  other times you are wrong. Learn to give room for other people's opinions and tolerate other's point of view. Also,  put yourself in the shoes of your partner before you say or do anything or react in a particular way to a particular situation.

5) Don't Give up on your relationship
Relationships entail commitments and sacrifices. Every long lasting relationship you see today  has had its rough days but what sustained the relationship was the ability of the partners to endure the pain,  the storm,  the struggles and the hard times and fight for what they believe in - the relationship. A relationship is a whole package,  you cannot enjoy the benefits without enduring the burdens. You have to embrace the whole of it.

I will leave you with these five tips for today. So if you have been that nagging, selfish or public boyfriend or girlfriend,  it's time to step up your game a lil bit and be a more caring,  loving,  compassionate and understanding girlfriend.
I hope you have found this post helpful. For more relationship and dating tips, watch this space and follow us up everyday for a variety of news and enlightening posts. You can subscribe by leaving your email in the available column beside this post or subscribe to the blog by following  on Google+,Ogundipe Jesunifemi. Don't forget to tell a friend to tell another friend to tell tet another friend about Purplenigma97.blogspot.com. Love y'all muchos. Have a lovely weekend:)

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WORD FOR THE WEEK

It's Monday again!
Get up on your feet,
Plan  your week ahead.
Set your priorities straight.
Write your goals down.
Launch into your week like a boss.
Do not give room for distractions.
Stay confident.
Stay positive.
Be nice as much as you can.
Treat people the way you would love to be treated.
Smile! It doesn't hurt...
Don't hate, it's poisonous.
Celebrate other people's succeses like you would like them to celebrate yours.
Be patient,  good things don't come easy.
Don't be discouraged,  just keep trying.
Be the best version of yourself this week.
Push yourself  harder.
You will definitely get there.
God bless you all.
#purplenigmers #positiveworld #positivevibes #positivechange #errythingpositive

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BUSTED!

I try to move a pace ahead

But it seems am not trying hard enough, 

I try to move two paces ahead, 

But one step at a time the guide says, 

Trying may be difficult buh giving up is a disaster. 

The world does not celebrate the second best, at least,  not as much as they celebrate the best. 

To be the best in anything is not a day's job, 

It is a steady consistent process, 

You cannot cheat the grind, 

In this journey, don't lag behind. 

The world waits for no one, 

Once opportunity knocks,  it's too late to prepare, 

Start now if you want to be there, 

For tomorrow you never can tell, 

Your dream, your passion is not what you  sell, 

Let your outcome tell the story. 

Combine that passion with determination and zeal, 

It might not always be easy, 

People around making you feel you can't do it, 

Some indirectly saying you can't get there

But don't let the opinion of others drown that inner voice of hope, 

Even though the future may seem uncertain, 

Sometimes it's like I don't know where am heading, 

Like where are the headlights,  the signals, the road map? 

Am I meant to just keep walking blindly into this streak of darkness, 

With no path,  no trail, no work of science. 

And the only light I feel is through my heart, 

But will I stop dreaming? ... No

Will I stop believing? .... Never

Will I quit trying? ... Not an option. 

I will hold on to that tiny shining light that sparks within my soul, 

Creating in my head a beautiful picture to behold, 

This picture I see is the me I know I would become sooner than later,

The thought of it alone excites me, 

It ignites the fire of persistency that cannot be quenched, 

Because what is driving me is stronger and deeper than the thousand and one challenges I may face on my way. 

I will create a path of my own as I travel through the lane, 

Listening to that inner voice of hope urging me to go ahead, 

Not looking back at past failures and disappointments, 

Not worrying about  the future untold, 

This I would do, 

Until the light within cannot be kept inside anymore, 

And it explodes with its bubbles of joy filling the air, 

The world can then smile with you because you saw beyond, 

Beyond the pain. 

Beyond the struggles. 

Beyond the obstacles... 

You moved from being the dreamer to being the winner, 

Now you've earned it,  welcome on board! 

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2016 - NEW ME OR NEW GOALS?? (Pt. 2)

Hi guys!  So today we will continue from where we stopped yesterday. 2016- NEW ME OR NEW GOALS? Just in case you are just joining us,  I would advise you to go through my pervious post first so that you can gain fully from this post cuz this post is a continuation of the previous one.
Getting down to the business of the day,  remember that pretty book or paper I told you to write down the Five most important things to you,  well it's time to revisit it again...
Am sure you've made your decisions already concerning those important things like I told you to,  go through them again if you need to. How you are going to know if these things are actually the most important is that they will be involved in your everyday life. For instance,I  can't do without my faith,  family,  friends and career each day. These are the most important things to me.
Now,  having settled that,  the next step is going to be more of  a daily routine. Every morning when you  wake up or before you go to bed at night, get a sheet of paper and list out all your activities for the day in order of priority,  starting with the most important to the least important. Then start off your day with the first activity on the list. Do not move to the second until you are done with the first,  then continue like that.
If you follow these steps,  what you will realize is that you may not cover all the activities on your list but you will still feel fulfilled when you go to bed at night because you have done the most important things.
Live out each day like this by dealing with the things that are most important first then you will see how your life achievements will improve tremendously.
Do not think of yesterday. Yesterday is gone. Finished. Do not think of tomorrow, it may never come. Focus on today because that's all you have got for now, it is your only sure bet so explore the opportunities embedded in today to the fullest. When you have finished making good use of today by doing all you have to do, (take note, not all you want to do, they are two different things)  then you can prepare for tomorrow.
Once again,  I hope you found this post helpful. If you have any further questions,  enquiries or opinion,  leave a comment below or send a mail to officialpurplenigmers@gmail.com. Bless!
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2016 - NEW ME OR NEW GOALS?

Hey beautiful people! Yesss we made it. It's 2016 and I see an amazing year ahead. Can I hear the Amen? Lol.
Well well well,  it's another year again and people are already  going about  the"new year, new me" slogan and then some girls go like : "Yo! Am leaving your silly ass behind in 2015", people making new year resolutions that they never keep up with and you know how the story ends...
Why do you think people go through this whole drill at the beginning of each year and yet,  when the year comes to an end, it feels like they haven't achieved anything or nothing has changed, just the same old me from 2015?  Well lemme help you out a bit.
People often miss the point,  they get so carried away by the whole hype of entering a new year,  some get pretty emotional and begin to make unrealistic resolutions based on those emotions. This is why we often fail.
Get this now! It's not about changing the people in your life,  it's not even about changing goals neither is it about changing you. Huh? Someone is a lil bit confused now. Stay with me...
What we fail to realize is that nothing will change if you don't change your PERSPECTIVE. Yes, that's it,  we are getting somewhere..
Your perspective is the way you see things-your point of view.
Your perspective determines a whole lot - your perspective towards yourself, your perspective towards people, your perspective towards your faith,  your perspective towards your PRIORITIES. Gbam! This leads to another major issue.
Anyone, like anyone at all could achieve anything he wants to if only he would set his priorities straight! Your priorities are things that are most important to you.
Most times,  when we say we make new year resolutions,  what we do is make groundless decisions. Decisions are not something you make every now and then, there are some decisions you make once in a lifetime, then you set goals and priorities based on those decisions you have made. Get this point,  DECISIONS DO NOT CHANGE OFTEN, PRIORITIES DO!
The decision you make concerning your faith,  your family,  friends,  your career among others are once in a lifetime, then you begin to live out those decisions daily in order of Priorities. For instance,  if you make a decision to be the best student in your class this session and because of that,  you cut down your chatting hours and then your friends be like you have changed.

 I don't know if someone is still confused,  let me break it down with this scenario :
E.g Decision : I've decided to put God first in everything, To care for my family and improve my academics. I have made this decision and I make it once and for all, what I need to do now is to just live out this decision daily and how do I live them out - MY PRIORITIES   . My priorities must reflect these three major decisions. I must start each day with that which is most important to me and not until I have finished with my topmost priority will I move to the next.
So today,  I want us to do something,  get a sheet of paper or a book and a pen,  list out the 5 most important things to you,  it could be for example,  God,  family,  boyfriend,  career and friends,  anyhow you want it,  it's your list not mine but be honest to yourself. After that,  make a permanent  decision on how you want to improve on those five things. Think well, it's a lifetime decision.... Write it down and close the book.
 We will stop there for today, I don't want us to get confused. Tomorrow I will tell you what's next.!  Hope you found this post helpful? you can comment below  or if you still don't understand one or two things, no worries just send a mail to officialpurplenigmers@gmail.com and we will be sure to help you out.
Check this space tomorrow for the continuation of this post(Pt. 2), there's still a lot to be revealed and I can assure you by the time we are done, you will see a lot of positive changes in your life.
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